Victim’s Safety Plan
- Pack a suitcase with extra clothing and toiletries and leave it with a friend or neighbor. Don’t forget to make an extra set of keys for the house and car as well.
- Keep personal items, such as identification cards, medicine, and other legal documents,
in a special place for easy, quick retrieval. In case of emergency, have a planned destination and how to contact a friend or family member for help.
- Know a destination and what to do in case escape is not possible. Remember to avoid hiding in the kitchen, bathroom, or bedroom.
- Call the police. Domestic violence is a crime.
- Do not clean up until all evidence is preserved by a police officer.
Safety and emotional health
- If the victim is thinking of returning to the abuser, the victim should discuss other alternatives with a trusted friend or family member.
- Communication with the abuser, if necessary, should be done in a safe place.
- Think positive and be assertive.
- Read books, articles, and poems to help self-empowerment.
- Find friends and family members for support.
- Attend support groups to learn more about healthy relationships.
Safety during an explosive incident
- If an argument persists, have it in an area that has access to an exit, not other rooms in the house where weapons may be available.
- Practice how to leave the home safely.
- Have personal items ready in a secret place in order to leave quickly.
- Tell a neighbor about the violence, and ask them to call the police if they hear or see something unusual.
- Devise code words to use with friends, family, children, or neighbors in case they need to call the police.
- Plan and decide where to go in case it becomes necessary to leave.
- Trust personal instincts and judgment.
Safety on the job and in public
- Inform the employer about the situation.
- If possible, have personal telephone calls reviewed.
- Create a safety plan for when leaving work.
Safety in your own home
- Change the lock on doors and add safety devices to secure the windows.
- Create a safety plan with the children.
- Inform the children’s school or daycare about who is allowed to pick up the children.
- Let neighbors and landlord know that they should call the police if they see the former partner near home.
- If possible use an answering machine or caller ID to screen calls.
REMEMBER: LEAVING AN ABUSER CAN BE DANGEROUS, BUT NO ONE DESERVES TO BE HIT OR THREATENED!